When you’ve been really disappointed by someone or something what have you done about it? How has that “sinking in your stomach” feeling affected you? Do you tend to deal with it by “soldiering on” and pretending it’s not real or are you overcome with it?
For me it’s a bit of both if I’m honest.
Before, I would let it really get to me to the point where I was good for nothing for a couple of days. I would cry loads and then get really angry and start shouting and swearing at people. Not a pretty sight.
Whereas now I allow myself to spend some time with the emotion by trying to understand it.
Usually when we experience deep hurt, there’s a lot of other stuff lurking beneath the surface which is completely unrelated. Disappointment can be a bit like mud where it just builds up upon layer after layer. In other words, the more disappointment we have the more “emotional mud” we accumulate.
Once you unearth the core pain point and bring it into the light, it’s easier to deal with.
Ok… “but how exactly do I do that Holly?” I can hear you asking.
Well, this is what I do and it works very quickly:
Think of the three most disappointing experiences you’ve ever had, including childhood. Then ask yourself –
- Were they similar experiences involving similar types of people?
- What were my expectations that led to disappointment?
- In hindsight, how have these incidents’ benefited me?
When we start asking questions like these in the depths of our disappointment we allow room for clarity and a direction to move forward. Our past can be our greatest teacher and we can find a lot of the answers amongst it that we search for today.
Remember, some of life’s most beautiful blessings come from the harshest of pitfalls… which I will talk more moving forward.
Love and Light,
Since transforming my own life I have coached many people through emotional blocks so they can experience more passion and purpose for themselves….