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Self sabotaging behaviour is an activity that we all engage in. Whether we are aware of it or not, we love to self sabotage and unfortunately spend the majority of our lives doing so. Most of us have big dreams and our own idea of what makes up the perfect lifestyle. We say that we want ‘this and that’ more than anything else… so how come we don’t get very far in obtaining them?

Imagine what you could be achieving if you stopped self sabotaging behaviour today? 

Some of us not only know what we want but we also know exactly what steps we need to take to get there. Why do we still not do anything about it? Self sabotaging behaviour proves to be one of the biggest obstacles we face time and time again. Although, how can we stop self sabotaging behaviour unless we can recognize it for what it is? 

The Truth Behind Our Biggest Fears 

Several months back I came across a quote by Marianne Williamson called Our Deepest Fear. In recent weeks, it has kept coming back to me when I observe and listen to others. This got me thinking about my own reasons for not achieving a lot of the goals I have wanted to. The truth is I do engage in a lot of self sabotaging because I am frightened of my own natural abilities. I am frightened of:

  1. The consequences that pursuing them will bring about
  2. The people that may disappear from my life
  3. The inevitable changes that will need to be made if I take a risk by taking a leap of faith 

Instead I procrastinate and look for external reasons/excuses. This justifies me not taking actions that I know will inevitably help me move closer to the very things I claim to desire.

Some may say that this proves a lack of commitment or motivation – but how true is that? Consciously we know we are capable of a lot, but still we choose not to act on these strengths we possess. Just like the quote Our Deepest Fear states; a part of us of is unnerved by our own power within. We carry a lot of fear around inside of us which reflects in a lack of self confidence, self belief, self esteem… the qualities are endless.  It is these insecurities which subtly undermine any minor efforts we make to bring about change.

The Power of the Subconscious

Self sabotage is our biggest stumbling block, causing stop self sabotaging behaviourus to be our own worst enemy.  Like sitting in a luke-warm bath; you want to get out but you can’t be bothered to move because getting out is going to be colder than staying in.  We are funny creatures and it is amazing what our subconscious mind will try to make us do to protect us from getting hurt or being disappointed. When you break it down and step back you see how fearful our habits and responses to life actually are.

So 5 questions to ask yourself to breakthrough self sabotaging behavior is:

  1. Do I want to be successful? In what way?
  2. Would I like to make a difference in people’s lives, travel the world and/or be my own boss? 
  3. How badly do I desire these things?
  4. Am I guilty of procrastinating, making excuses and blaming other people for not getting round to these dreams?
  5. If I was to NEVER achieve any of these things, how would I feel?

Perhaps it’s time to take some baby steps towards your life long ambitions? If not now then when will you?

Take that leap of faith and make some breakthroughs today.  You will be amazed by what you are capable of if you try. 

On the other side of your fears is a life that goes way beyond all your wildest and greatest aspirations.

Until next time…

Sending Lots of Love & Light,

Holly xx 

PS: These free gifts helped me put so much into perspective and face all my fears head on

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Dear Holly
Thank you for this amazing message, this is a perfect time for me to read, and a very good reminder to stay positive because many life changing events are ahead of me at this moment!
Lots of love and blessings!
Eleonora xx

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Hi Holly,
Eleonora is right, this is a great message. I am certainly guilty of self-sabotage, but trying each day to rid myself of this trait. It is hard I must admit, but the more I practise the better I get at doing it.