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Sexy Is Sexier Than Sex

Now & Then 

Yes you read the title right – sexy is sexier than sex, practically and metaphorically. What do I mean by this? Well… first of all what does sexy mean now? Have you ever wondered why this world is now sex mad? When you compare this generation to 50 years ago – any sex related topic was a taboo subject, whereas now it’s the opposite. Children in the playground are talking about it in more depth than adults. If you are not ‘clued up’ you’re considered to be a prude.

Coming from the UK, I am all too aware of how many girls are getting pregnant when they are still children themselves. England has the highest rate of underage pregnancy in Europe. This is causing an ever perpetuating cycle of what is now known as ‘Broken Britain’. The pressure that young women are under to loose their virginity before a certain age is incredulous. I genuinely believe that the media and popular celebrities aka ‘role models’ contribute towards this problem.

Right or Wrong?

So… what does sexy mean then. Is our perception of it today the right one?

sexy is sexier than sex

Women are now considered to be a sex symbol more than ever. Marilyn Monroe was one of the most iconic in this emergence of females acting just as ostentatious as men in the dating/sex arena. However, the difference now is; derogatory porn, sex on the first date and disrespect towards women which is more rife than it has ever been. Of course, I am not stupid – I am aware that to a degree this has always been the case. What is more worrying now though is that is is actively encouraged in many ways, albeit subtlety, it is considered the norm.

On the other hand, women do have many more rights and are far more liberated than their grandmothers. What is a shame is that where they have obtained respect, they have lost it as far as chivalry and romance is concerned. 

Striking The Right Balance

As women we all know what men want – which may sound completely sexist, but ultimately it’s true. There are alwayssexy is sexier than sex exceptions, but generally speaking… the more women give, the less they receive in return.

Like everything, it comes down to balance. By this I mean giving and committing ourselves accordingly – on the condition that we are appreciated, loved and most importantly respected.

Of course, ‘friends with benefits’ is very common now-a-days and I am not judging anyone. We all have different needs and perspective. Sometimes a bit of fun is all we want and need at that stage in our lives.

What Does Sexy Mean? The True Definition…

However, back to my title… I believe that sexy is and always will be sexier than sex itself. Like Christmas Eve before Christmas Day, or like the build up of being at the airport prior to going on holiday. Isn’t the thrill of the chase before going all the way with someone so much more of a turn on? The reality of something is very rarely greater than the excitement before the actual event. Once it’s here, once it’s been and done – there is an anti-climax (and I mean metaphorically… although in relation to sex it can also be very true!).

sexy is sexier than sexThere is nothing more enticing than the mystery of the unknown… the illusion of infatuation…. and the magic of fantasy that our minds create. As the expression goes… ‘the grass is always greener’. My point to writing this article is to ask you – what is it now that you yourself are waiting on and working towards? What does ‘sexy’ mean to you?

Wanting More 

As great as an accomplishment feels, it is important to remember once the goal or dream is realized, it is only natural for us to look towards the next thing. Relationships are a prime example. As great as being with that special someone is, it is inevitable that once sexual boundaries have been crossed, it is not long before complacency starts to set in. The aspect of ‘sex appeal’ and attraction slowly begins to decline. We adjust and get used to that other person and new chapter in our lives. It stops being our main focus. We look to progress in someway – whether it be within the same relationship or in a brand new one.

True Contentment

Life is about the journey, not the destination. As my title states ‘sexy is sexier than sex’ which is why it is crucial we savour the present and anticipation of what is yet to be. We have a habit of thinking that once we get something (or someone) we will be happy. In actual fact we need to create the happiness within ourselves first and foremost. We are able to ensure this by doing the things that makes us happy and by being with the people who enrich and add value to our lives. As we evolve, make changes, and fulfill our heart’s desires, (whatever that may be), the most important factor is that we are being true to ourselves. This way, we are more likely to create those moments of excitement and pleasure on a prolonged, consistent basis.

What do you think?

Until next time…

Lots of Love & Light,

Holly xx

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Marie @ The Business of Blooming

Great post! I love this idea that sexy is sexier than sex. Such a great reminder for other areas of our life, too 🙂

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