It's Easy When You Don't Love Them
Having the relationship you want can sometimes seem like a million miles away.
Ever felt like saying "to hell with that person - I just give up"!?! It's one of the worse feelings in the world, (not to mention frustrating), when trying to reason with someone and not being able to get through to them.
How can we possibly have anything remotely meaningful - let alone a harmonious relationship with that individual?
We are surrounded by people who annoy us with their behaviour. They won't listen and they think they know everything. We want to be as far away from them as possible....
but we have no choice but to tolerate them.
Unfortunately, these types of feelings are not limited to just our work colleagues or those who we generally rub shoulders.
They regularly include our loved ones.
Those who we should have the most enriching relationships with of all.
In fact, relationships with people we genuinely love are the hardest.
Our friends, family and partners have the ability to stir up emotions in us like no one else. They can make us ecstatically happy as well as desperately miserable.
Can't live with them. Can't live without them.
So how can we switch these negative dilemmas and turn them into positive and rewarding relationships?
The Most Important Relationship Of All
The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. That's not selfish, that is fact (to find out why - watch this)
No matter what anyone tells you or how they might make you feel - you are irreplaceable and unique.
There never has been and there never will be anyone else like you on this earth ever again.
We have relationships with all sorts of people including healthy and unhealthy, positive and negative.
Putting emotions aside for one minute, all of these external relationships can be discarded if needs be (and yes that includes loved ones).
Whereas the internal relationship and communication you have with yourself can never be dismissed or ignored.
How can you ever run away from yourself?
Your the one who sets the example to others by how you appreciate, respect and love yourself.
This is not about being egotistical or arrogant, it's about self esteem and worthiness.
For example, when you look in the mirror do you automatically find something to criticise or do you acknowledge how nice you look?
When you start to see yourself in a more positive light I guarantee two things will happen;
- You will be able to pinpoint the individuals who bring you down and have a negative influence over you
- Being treated with nothing BUT love and respect will become non-negotiable
How To Have The Relationship You Desire
I can promise that if you start appreciating yourself more, most people around you will begin to mirror this approach towards you. Or they will just disappear, which can be scary at first but it will be a good thing in the long run.
No relationship is worth it if you continue trying to make it better and gain nothing but hurt and upset.
Always remember that honest communication is key. By expressing what your boundaries are in a relationship, this will let the other person know what you will and will not tolerate.
Action must follow your words though to reinstate this message to others.
In order to give and receive love it's important to put yourself at the top of your own priority list.
After all, you will only get in life what you are willing to accept.
You are worthy of all the love and kindness that this world has to offer. So if you truly want to receive, start by giving to yourself.... and watch the transformations unfold!
For extra ideas on how to create more love for yourself both internally and externally watch my YouTube video "Seven Top Tips For Self Love"